In a recent conversation with Lynn Ngugi, Joyce Gituro, a well-known media personality, openly shared her unfiltered experiences of navigating the complexities of dating as a single mother following her separation from her husband.
Joyce began by unveiling the unique challenges she encountered in the dating world as a single mother, confessing that at one point, she contemplated returning to her former husband due to the difficulties she faced.
According to Joyce, dating takes on a different dynamic when you are a single mother, with people approaching and treating you in a distinct manner. She admitted, “I tried dating during that time. Let me tell you, I got to a point where I was like, ‘Waaah, afadhali nirudi hata kwa yule bwanangu.’ There is this thing about dating as a single mother. People date you differently.”
The media personality acknowledged the specific treatment that single mothers often encounter in the dating scene and expressed her admiration for men who genuinely love and respect single mothers and their children.
Reflecting on her personal journey, Joyce shared details about a two-year relationship that, despite a promising beginning, eventually revealed its shortcomings. She noticed a lack of concern for her children’s well-being and realized that her partner prioritized her over her children, a red flag she couldn’t ignore.
“Dating as a single mother, I was shocked. I tried dating during that time and got into a relationship that lasted for two years. Initially, it was a very good relationship with a mature person, but with time you start thinking, ‘Where are we headed?’” she questioned.
Joyce’s honesty extended to acknowledging the pitfalls of rebound relationships, highlighting the importance of entering a relationship with a clear understanding of feelings and intentions.
She admitted, “The mistake that most ladies make, because I also did, is rebound. I went into this relationship not knowing why I loved him. There’s nothing between you, it’s just that relationship, but you are totally in love.”
After the breakup, Joyce underwent a period of introspection and personal growth. Though challenging, the experience helped her mature and gain a deeper understanding of herself.
Today, she radiates confidence and self-assurance, recognizing her own worth and setting clear expectations for any future relationships.
Joyce Gituro outlined her criteria for a potential partner, emphasizing shared values, financial stability, and mutual respect. She firmly asserted her stance against financially supporting a partner, underscoring the importance of companionship built on equality and respect.
