A virgin woman is hard to come by in the modern world. Aliphosin Tabarwa, a 70-year-old virgin from the DRC, said that she is extremely pure. She has never had a sexual relationship with a man….CONTINUE READING
Tabarwa claimed in an interview with Afrimax English that she gave everything up to care for her younger siblings. She decided to abstain from worldly pleasures so that she could raise her siblings and ensure that they all finished high school.
Since she avoided men and generally said no to them when they tried to approach her, she hasn’t had a sexual relationship with one for the past 70 years.
The 70-year-old virgin also admitted that, while all of her peers her age are married and have families, she only has her siblings, for whom she has sacrificed her happiness.
She has achieved her goals because all her siblings have graduated. Now Tabarwa is desperately looking for a man to marry her. She said publicly that, the man will find a very pure woman because she has never had sex.
Tabarwa is optimistic that she will get one, and even get married. Age is just a number, and by the grace of God, she knows that she will get married.
Don’t be like Tabarwa, get that boyfriend, and start a life.
15 Things No One Tells You About Losing Your Virginity But You Need to Know
First time having sex brings up a lot of questions. Will it hurt? will i orgasam? What does it mean if I do or dont bleed? There’s a lot of information out there, between what you’ve read on social media, seen in movies and TV shows, and heard from your friends. Sure, your parents may have given you a sex ed talk around the time you hit puberty, or a teacher covered the topic in health class, but they may have skipped over some critical details or left some questions unanswered that you might have been too embarrassed to ask.
But you’re definitely not alone if you have questions, and there are actually a number of important things to know before losing your virginity that no one may have told you. To be even more prepared, keep reading for all of the things no one tells you about losing your virginity.
1. There’s no right way to have sex.
First, it’s crucial to note that there’s no right or wrong way to have sex. Sex is defined in many ways, and everyone’s experience is different. There are so many different reactions you could have, both emotional and physical to having sex for the first time — all of which are completely normal. What matters is that you and your partner are comfortable, give consent, use protection, and are 100 percent sure you’re ready to make this step.
2. Losing your virginity doesn’t mean *exactly* what you think it means.
A virgin is someone who’s never had sex but, because sex holds different meaning for different people, it’s not really that simple. Most people think that losing their virginity means penis-in-vagina intercourse, but that’s not always the case. For those who aren’t cis-gender or straight, the definition of losing their virginity may be oral sex or anal sex. The truth is there isn’t a universal definition for virginity — it comes down to each individual to define it for themself.
“Other activities, like oral sex, can be even more intimate than sexual intercourse,” Kris Gowen, a sex educator and author of Making Sexual Decisions, says. “Any time you’re intimate with someone, it’s going to impact you.”
So don’t put too much on the technicality of just one act, and instead think of ~losing it~ as a progression. Then you’ll be prepared to handle all of the big responsibilities (like am i being safe?) and complex emotions (did they really just see me totally naked?!) that come with each and every step.
3. Think about talking to your doctor before your first time.
If you’re considering having sex for the first time, it’s a good idea to talk to your doctor about it first. We know, it might feel weird talking to an adult about sex. But, trust us, they hear about sex and vaginas all day, every day, so nothing will shock them. And there’s this thing called doctor/patient confidentiality, which means that whatever you tell your doctor stays inside the walls of the exam room.
4. You can change your mind at any point.
Let’s set the scene: You’re passionately kissing your significant other and you’ve both decided that tonight is the night, but then you think: You know, I don’t really want to do this right now. That is 1,000,000,000 percent okay, and you have every single right to let your partner know that. People change their minds over all kinds of things (like craving a burger but then actually realizing they want nuggets), so why would that be any different for something as intimate as having sex for the first time? If you’re not ready, then it’s not happening, and that’s totally fine. And it doesn’t matter how far you’ve gotten, you can stop at any point.
5. No one actually cares if you’re still a virgin.
Yes, it might seem sometimes that all anyone talks about is sex and all of your friends are doing it, but trust us: People do not care that you’re still a virgin and most don’t care what “virginity” means. And *that* is an excellent reason to wait for the positive experience you deserve, full of mutual deep-feels and next-level respect. The right person won’t care about how much you’ve hooked up. Everyone’s experiences are different. No matter your age, you should feel ready and comfortable enough to do things on your own terms, and there’s no shame in that.
6. Your 🍒 doesn’t *pop.*
We know it’s a super popular myth, but it’s false. “The hymen consists of thin folds of stretchy tissue that are just inside the vaginal opening,” explains Michelle Horejs, associate director of youth education and training at Planned Parenthood Los Angeles. “It may tear or stretch the first time you have sex — causing some discomfort or a little bleeding — but it’s not something you can break or that disappears once you have sex.”
You may have already tore it on your bike, on the balance beam, or just by being an active human. “A hymen can tear from penetration of any type,” Dr. Jones explains. It’s NBD though, because your hymen is just a part of your body. It has absolutely nothing to do with virginity.
7. Not everybody bleeds during first-time sex.
On that same note, it’s also totally normal if you don’t bleed during first-time sex, according to planned parenthood. Yes, as we mentioned above, it’s common to bleed during your first time when tissue tears around your hymen. Bur if you don’t, it may just mean that your hymen previously tore from a number of different activities, sexual or non-sexual.
8. Sex could cause pain or physical discomfort.
Let us explain. To prep for sex (we’re mostly talking penetrative intercourse here, like vaginal and anal sex), your body needs a warm-up phase of kissing, touching, etc. That’s when the penis erects and vagina lubricates to prepare for sex (because no lubrication = friction = pain). But the tricky part is that nerves can interfere with this arousal process, and you and your partner could get aroused at different speeds.
“Guys are like microwaves and girls are slow cookers,” explains Stardell Smith, a health educator at Mount Sinai Adolescent Health Center in New York City. To check, you can use your fingers to see if you’re ready down there. And if not: Slow. Them. Down. If you’re not wet enough, don’t be concerned — there is nothing wrong. You can also try using lube to mitigate irritation.
