A Kenyan woman has ignited a lively discussion on social media by outlining the types of men she believes do not qualify to be labeled “mubabaz.” In Kenyan culture, a “mubaba” is a man who indulges a young lady with financial generosity and gifts.
In a widely circulated video, the content creator expressed her concern that many women mistake financially stable and committed men, whom she refers to as “wababa,” for unfaithful and financially challenged individuals. She proceeded to identify specific categories of men whom she believes fall short of deserving the title of “mubaba.”
The following are the types of men she contends should not be considered as mubabaz:
- Men with Small Children: According to the woman, men who have small children should be left to prioritize their parental responsibilities. She emphasized that children often suffer due to their fathers’ extramarital affairs, and dating such men could potentially attract negative consequences. She stressed that a man with small kids should focus on supporting his family, rather than diverting resources to a romantic partner.
- Men Who Pay Rent: The lady argued that men living in rented apartments are not suitable candidates for the mubaba title. In her view, men who pay rent should prioritize providing for their families rather than engaging in relationships that divert financial resources from essential family needs. She questioned the rationale of dating someone who pays rent at the same level as the person they are dating, suggesting that such relationships lack a long-term commitment.
- Men Whose Wives Request Petty Cash Regularly: The woman asserted that men whose wives frequently ask for money for minor expenses, such as groceries, are not deserving of the mubaba title. She argued that a true mubaba is someone who has their affairs in order and is not bothered by trivial family expenditures, indicating a level of financial stability and responsibility.
- Men Who Send Exact Amounts as Requested: According to the lady, men who consistently send the exact amount of money requested are considered financially inadequate. She claimed that some men even resort to taking overdrafts to impress their romantic partners. In her opinion, such men may bring curses upon themselves as they struggle to meet both the demands of their romantic relationships and the needs of their families. She advised against dating men who struggle to satisfy their own needs.
In conclusion, the woman’s video has sparked debates on social media, with diverse opinions on her criteria for categorizing men as unfit for the mubaba title.
