Men, what do you usually do when you lose an erection during sex?
It’s actually pretty common for a guy’s erection to alternate between harder and softer during sexual intercourse. If a guy is using a condom and he loses his erection, he should withdraw his penis and put another condom on when it gets hard enough again. It’s a good idea to have more than one condom on hand when partners decide to have sexual intercourse
If a man can’t get an erection, on a subconscious level we worry that we aren’t sexy enough, but erectile failure is hardly ever caused by lack of physical attraction.
The ingrained expectation that males communicate their desire through their erections can make women feel unnecessarily insecure, but it puts a lot of sexual pressure on men too.
This problem is often compounded by the fact that a woman’s desire to be desired means she will expect her man to perform without providing any direct stimulation.