Kisii men have often been stereotyped for their perceived lack of romantic skills, hot tempers, and a certain reputation for stinginess, particularly among those from South Mugirango. However, despite their flaws, both real and imagined, Kisii men possess unique qualities and abilities that naturally endear them to women who prioritize marriage.
These inherent traits are deeply ingrained in their DNA, and while a few Kisii men may deviate from the communal norms, the majority embrace them wholeheartedly. One of the most treasured possessions for a Kisii man is a house.
In Kisii, unlike anywhere else in the world, a man’s value is determined by the house he has built and the family he nurtures within it. It is a matter of utmost significance. In the present day, every man, regardless of his occupation, whether a matatu conductor or a corrupt government official, strives to build a permanent residence. No other community places a higher premium on home-ownership than the Abagusii.
Undoubtedly, any woman would desire such security. Kisii men firmly believe in the institution of family, to the extent that it becomes a fundamental aspect of their lives. This sentiment is deeply rooted in the Bantu ethic, further strengthened within the Abagusii community. It is highly likely that very few Kisii men die without having experienced the commitment of marriage compared to men from other communities.
Furthermore, Kisii men possess unparalleled ambition within the country.
In Kenya, the level of ambition within a tribe is inversely proportional to the available land: the scarcer the land, the greater the ambition.
The land situation in Kisii is dire, to the point where finding a spot to dig a grave or even a pit latrine is a challenge. Consequently, Kisii men must be doubly ambitious to overcome these obstacles. This explains their significant presence in Nairobi’s matatu sector, despite its challenges.
Recently, a friend informed me that Kisii men dominate the illicit activities of bootlegging electricity, water, and satellite TV in the city’s slums. While the illegality of such actions cannot be overlooked, it is indicative of the overall ambitious nature of Kisii people. This ambitious spirit is highly valued by women, making individuals like Mogaka and Momanyi ideal husbands.
Thirdly, a Kisii man will protect and defend you. Our temper can be fiery, and at times, we may display excessive protectiveness. This stems from ancient times, when we settled in the Kisii highlands after migrating from Gabon.
We discovered that we were surrounded by hostile and war-prone Nilotic neighbors, such as the Luos, Maasais, and Kalenjins. Although the dynamics have changed, and we now enjoy harmonious relations with our neighbors, except during election periods, our instinct to defend our women and children remains ingrained within us. This is why we may react swiftly and, on rare occasions, aggressively. A Kisii man’s mother, wife, or children are off-limits, as interfering with them would invite severe consequences.
Fourthly, paradoxically, some women perceive us as overly possessive, jealous, and emotionally insecure. Isn’t that the power of love? Women should find this flattering. A man’s jealousy and possessiveness stem from his deep affection.
Dear women, the day a man ceases to be jealous or possessive is the day you should be concerned. When we love women, we do so wholeheartedly and may occasionally become overprotective, even to the point of being stifling. However, this is a small price a woman pays for the immense love showered upon her by a man. While there may be instances of peculiar behavior, it is important to note that it is primarily
