In a world where fatherhood is often equated with silent sacrifice and unshakeable loyalty, Kenyan media personality Oga Obinna recently sparked conversation with a brutally honest take:
“Kuna wanaume wanalea watoto sio wao. Hata mimi siko sure kama wote ni wangu, lakini sitaki kurisk na kuenda kufanya DNA. Lakini kama unashuku mtoto sio wako, inawezekana ni ukweli.”
This statement—equal parts confession and caution—hits at the core of a growing dilemma facing modern men: the silent suspicion that the children they are raising might not biologically be theirs.
The Silent Struggles of Men
Many fathers pour their hearts, time, and finances into raising children, believing wholeheartedly in the bond they’ve built. But what happens when doubt creeps in? Society expects men to stay strong, be providers, and rarely ask questions. Yet, behind closed doors, some harbor questions they’re too afraid to voice.
Obinna’s admission—that he himself isn’t entirely sure about the paternity of his children but chooses not to pursue DNA testing—reflects the emotional complexity men wrestle with. It’s not always about biology. Sometimes, love, trust, and the fear of disruption outweigh the need for cold, hard facts.
To Test or Not to Test?
For men who suspect a child might not be theirs, the decision to do a DNA test is often daunting. It’s not just about proving paternity—it’s about opening a box that, once opened, could change everything. Relationships, family dynamics, even mental health can take a hit.
Obinna’s advice isn’t telling men to jump to conclusions but rather to listen to their instincts. If something feels off, he implies, there may be truth behind the suspicion. But he also shows the weight of such knowledge by confessing that he, too, avoids the risk.
A Call for Openness
What we can learn from this is the importance of openness and communication in relationships. Trust and honesty must be mutual. While Obinna’s words may sound controversial, they’re grounded in a truth many men silently live with. His courage to speak it out loud gives voice to a reality that’s often swept under the rug.
Whether one chooses to pursue the truth or live in the love they’ve built, the decision remains deeply personal. What matters most is emotional well-being—for the father, the child, and the family as a whole.
