A woman confessed to having an affair with her father-in-law and bore a child for him
The woman is afraid things might turn ugly if her husband of five years finds out about the affair with his father despite being
Relationship and marriage counsellor Jane Murimi advised the woman to end both relationships
Anonymous wrote:
“I am 36, and I am dating my husband’s father (64), a prominent Kenyan politician. I have been married for five years and I have two kids and my seven-month-old baby was sired by my father-in-law. He gives me KSh 70,000 per month for upkeep, and we always meet at one of his houses. None of his workers ever suspect anything because they always know I am there to help him.
My husband and his father are not on good terms and always exchange bitter words whenever they meet, especially during family gatherings. I am afraid one day, my husband will find out about my affair with his father, and things will turn ugly. Should I end the affair and keep quiet or tell my man about it? Please advise.”
Jane Murimi Mugo is a relationship and marriage expert who started her counselling journey 12 years ago after realising that moulding children from a tender age is very important. This is because taming them as teenagers or when they become young adults may be tricky. Additionally, she is a teacher, poet, choreographer, and playwright. Murimi is the author of Caged, a book addressing the plights of the boy child and the way forward. She is currently working on a book on mental health, mainly targeting boys and men
Murimi advised the woman to stay away from her father-in-law and have a discussion with her man.
“The guilt will follow her to the grave. In fact, if she has guts, she should walk away and let the guy understand that it cannot work,” she said.
The relationship and marriage counsellor said that the no longer the lady stays in her marriage, she will stop having feelings for her man, and their marriage will never be the same.
She asked the mother of two to ask for her kids’ support while far from the two, saying she might face harsh consequences if her husband discovers her affair with his dad.
“From far, she can now be reaching her children’s dads or support. Even if she cohabits with her husband yet she has the father-in-law’s baby, the feelings will be directed towards him. She will have zero feelings for her husband. It is a matter of time before the guy gets to know about the affair. You can imagine the consequences… Let her quit. She cannot live a life of faking forever. Opening up about the affair might turn ugly. She just needs to lie about it and leave,” she advised.
