“Usimwulize bwanako mahali ametoka Usiku” – Popular pastor tells Kenyan women

Elizabeth Mokoro, a preacher within the Seventh-Day Adventist community, has shared guidance urging women to address the issue of their husbands arriving home late. In a widely circulated TikTok message, Mokoro conveyed her perspective that it is inappropriate and disrespectful for wives to reprimand their husbands for tardiness.

Mokoro proposed an alternative approach, suggesting that instead of inquiring directly about their husband’s whereabouts, wives should direct their questions to the children or the wife’s brothers.

Gaining prominence for her advice on marriage and relationships, Pastor Mokoro questioned the origins of the notion that wives should criticize their husbands for prolonged work hours. She emphasized her point by discouraging women from directly asking their husbands, “Where are you coming from?” Mokoro suggested that such inquiries should be directed to other family members, stating, “That one, you ask your brother or child – not your husband. Where do you get the guts to stand and say, ‘hii ni saa ngapi unakuja? Hutanifanya kama watchman wa kukufungulia kila wakati unakuja,'” as mentioned by Mokoro.

Her message resonated with hundreds of followers, who supported her advice, cautioning women against highlighting their husbands’ faults and shortcomings.

On the topic of marriage, Pastor Elizabeth Mokoro advised young women to consider marriage at the age of 21. She encouraged parents to acknowledge that their children are adults and should be allowed to manage their own lives. Mokoro criticized the tendency of some parents to keep grown children at home out of fear, stating that young adults should be given the independence to handle marriage and life on their own.

According to Mokoro, women at the age of 21 should possess the skills to manage a household, cook for the family, and make sound decisions consistently. She expressed concern about women reaching the age of 28 and feeling pressured to marry, often settling for men of similar age or slightly older. Mokoro suggested that such marriages might not be sustainable and emphasized the intellectual capabilities of women, asserting that they are designed to think more profoundly than men.

Furthermore, Mokoro cautioned men against marrying older women, predicting challenges when difficulties arise in the marriage. She advised men to recognize their roles and avoid situations where they might find themselves in a subordinate position during tough times.