A concerned woman has sparked online debate after asking what the right move is when an elderly man suddenly “runs away” back to his rural home. In her question, she wondered whether she should follow him accompanied by older women as tradition dictates, or take a different approach altogether.
The question touches on a familiar cultural dilemma in many Kenyan communities, where elders and family representatives often play a key role in resolving domestic misunderstandings. For some, involving “wamama” is seen as a respectful way to seek reconciliation and avoid escalating tensions. It signals seriousness, humility, and adherence to tradition.
Others, however, argue that every situation is different. They advise first understanding why the man left—whether it was anger, illness, feeling disrespected, or simply needing space. In such cases, rushing after him with a delegation could make matters worse rather than better.
The discussion online has largely settled on a middle ground: pause, gather information, and choose the approach wisely. If it’s a cultural or family issue, elders may help. If it’s a personal disagreement, calm communication might be the better first step.
