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A Case Of Toxic True Love: When Love Becomes The Very Reason To Hate

My name is Claire Wabwire, a 20-year-old student in Bungoma. I know that Wilson truly and genuinely loves me. He has been paying for my education, all the tuition fees, accommodation and upkeep. He visits often, on weekends, from Kakamega where he works as an office messenger. He loves me, truly, and that’s the root of our problems.

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The thing is, Wilson is just too loving, too patronizing and too caring. Am not used to being pampered like this. He always shows up with flowers, a gift, chocolate and brand-new shoes, which he knows I love very much. He compliments me too often, calling me pretty, sometimes gorgeous, a princess, my baby girl, honey or the worst of them all, my Paloma.
Wilson is just too much of a nice guy. He is always apologizing, even when he has done nothing wrong. He is also very insecure, jealous and too generous. The other day, just because I asked him to send me 10K urgently, he borrowed a loan and even slept hungry for a couple of days just to make sure that I get it.
On April 1st, I pranked him that I wanted to leave him. He broke down and cried like a baby, begging me to ask for anything, but not to leave him. His cousin called me moments later, that they were at the hospital. Wilson hit his head on the wall, out of anger and frustration. Leaving him is apparently reason enough for him to want to kill himself. I don’t think I’m ever going to prank him, ever.

In one way, it is romantic, for someone to be willing to sacrifice so much for you. On the other, and this is what stands out for me, Wilson seems like a weak man, unable to stand up to himself and take charge of his life. Love ought to start from within, and Wilson doesn’t really care about himself. I hate him for that.
The thought of getting married to him keeps me awake at night. What kind of a man would I be marrying?? Wilson, who won’t even listen to his own mother because of me?? This guy willing to ignore sound advice from close friends, just to do what I ask blindly? Is love the same as slavery?? Must he give so much, to the extent of leaving nothing for himself?? What if he gets weaker?? Are there people who derive happiness from making others happy?? Will he ever change??

I like bad boys, good liars, mischievous guys that kiss you in public, keep you on toes by ignoring your calls, boys that don’t just spoil you unless you are at his place, for a sleepover. Guys that show you, clearly, that they could be interested in someone else. I want him to act like that, at least for a change, for me to know that he ain’t my father and that he could leave any moment. I hate Wilson for being too open, too honest and too straightforward. He is such a toxic boyfriend. Lie or pull up your socks, goddamn it!!

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Funny enough, when I told my friend Christina about Wilson’s obvious red flags, she didn’t agree with me at all. In fact, she told me that I was being silly, that so many girls out here, wish to have someone like him, who would love them for who they are, accept their weaknesses and ignore their flaws. Apparently, Wilson is exactly what many girls pray for. Guys that don’t cheat, don’t insult you or give you any attention when you need them. She actually meant it, every word, and even narrated several incidents of girls getting cheated on, their hearts broken or even manipulated. Eventually, I agreed with her. She was right.

In fact, to make our bond with Wilson stronger, she suggested we visit a traditional herbalist called Dr. Mugwenu, to make us literally inseparable. Wilson agreed, quickly, like he usually does. We went to Vihiga, obtained Dr. Mugwenu’s powerful Love and Binding spells. Now that I know what I have, it’s time to do everything to hold onto it. Dr. Mugwenu already says that with his powerful spells, no cheating will ever happen. Maybe I expected too much, but now that I know that the little I have is more than enough, I have to protect it. Thanks to Dr. Mugwenu, I know that Wilson isn’t going anywhere.

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